Looking for Love in Different Places

How things have changed!!  My mom told me that in her day, that would be the olden days, that you found someone to date at actual places, like your neighborhood, or the church choir, or even at the library.  Can you imagine?  My generation has found a new way—online dating.  Check this out.

In 2002, a Wired magazine article forecast that, “Twenty years from now, the idea that someone looking for love without looking for it online will be silly, akin to skipping the card catalog to instead wander the stacks because ‘the right books are found only by accident.’ Serendipity is the hallmark of inefficient markets and the marketplace of love, like it or not, is becoming more efficient.”

The role of social networking services in online dating has been explored in a book dedicated to the subject. Jonathanbishop.com “ The findings of the study reveal that the online dating services driven by subscriptions offer the least amount of social networking opportunities, as they often only utilize the personal homepage genre of online community, which only makes them effective for the bonding and encoding stage of the relationship. The dating services modeled on the free-at-the-point-of-use model scored much higher as many of them utilized the Circle of Friends social networking method and a wider number of online community genres. The highest scoring dating service was Facebook, which uses the personal homepage genre, the message board genre, the weblog and directory genre, as well as utilizing the Circle of Friends.”

Online dating is so popular that movies have been made revolving around this concept; to name a couple:  You’ve Got Mail, a 1998 film in which the two protagonists conduct a relationship entirely over email before meeting each other; Because I Said So, a 2007 film in which a mother creates an online dating profile for her daughter.

There is a down side for this popular method of meeting people.  Online predators find online dating sites especially attractive, because such sites give them an unending supply of new targets of opportunity for Internet fraud.  A well known criminal nicknamed the “Craig List Killer” found his victims this way.

I asked myself, why is online dating so popular?  Several reasons came to mind: we are so busy that we don’t take time to socialize; we like the anonymity of using the computer—you can always just click the person away; or perhaps it has to do with self image—we can be the person we dream to be.  This reminds me of Brad Paisley’s song “Online”.  Watch and enjoy.


About smurphyrules
I love my son, my fiance, my mom and the new children that will be becoming a part of my life.

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